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Originally Posted by Nanijah
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True about doin your job. But we all make mistakes. Say your daughter went out and did something wrong JUST ONCE, and some stranger beat her ass for it. Now what would you do? Wouldn't you rather they come to you about the problem FIRST since you do disapline her but just ONCE she did something wrong? I mean it happens. We can't say that we give anyone that right to smack around a child for doing wrong. Most likely they weren't brought up in a home where they were even taught right from wrong.
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Now see that's something different there. I see where you're coming from with that. Where I stay at, majority of the people around there KNOW who my daughter is. So if she was to get into some trouble I'm pretty sure they'll come talk to me about it. And I think that's one reason why I haven't heard anything about her doing anything lol. She knows that somebody is out there is watching her ass and if she slips up, I'll eventually will find out. But to answer your question if she does something wrong and somebody beats her ass for it there is gonna be some problems. Because like I said majority of the people know who she is and knows I'm her father. So Instead of doing that they could have just came to me. Espeically if she hasn't been causing in troubles before. I see what you're saying.
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I grew up in a VERY abusive get your ass kicked for just giving the wrong look. It didn't do shit to me. But made me angry. So I don't believe abusing/beating/smacking around someone will teach them anything. There might be the odd person it would work with. But not all.
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Ok I can see where you're coming from with that point. Of course you're not gonna learn anything from getting whipped if you were getting whipped for basically no reason at all.
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You are also right. I'm not from the South (duh obviously lol) and I'm not from a rough neighbourhood either. So I've never had this problem. So for me, smacking someone's child that is outta line is not right. I have no problem giving a kid shit or yelling at them. But they are not my child, I should not have the right to smack em.
So I guess it really does have to do with where and how you're raised. Cuz I certainly wasn't raised around a place where someone else could beat my ass. But I bet my mom wouldn't mind if someone did (if I was doing something bad) lol.
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Yes in the South they'll do that, espeically when I was coming up. It was like everybody was your parent. Everybody tried to look out for each other kids. It didn't matter if the grown folk liked each other or not. There was a tacit understanding. If your kid fucked up on the streets(espeically if you was a known knuckle head) somebody was gonna give it to you.