Damn, I don't have any "first approach" game

LikeWise3001 · 06-27-2005, 08:38 PM

let me just say first... I have zero trouble carrying a conversation with a female...

my problem area is the first approach...

since I was dating a girl for 3 years... (from age 17 till 20)

I really dont have any 'player' expierence... as in... approaching random females that I'm attracted to...

...Like, that girl in the mall... or that girl at the beach... or that girl walking down the street... or that girl in line at the convienence store...

i mean, I dont know how to approach them... since I havent done it in so long... i'm very hesitant...and I dont do it... I dont know what to say really...

I guess i talk myself out of it... like... "man, im'a sound lame....saying Hi, my name is David, Im attracted to you, whats your name"

I hate...hate....hate.... the beginning of getting to know a girl...

what should i do? just approach alot of girls...?

I dont know what im asking really... maybe im just venting...

but anyway, once I get over the introduction and whatever....and im on the first phone call or first date.... I handle myself very well.... like i said, its only the intro that I have a problem with....

yayo · 06-27-2005, 08:53 PM

of all the aspects of the game, this has to be the hardest....im the same way , although i struggle with it less then i used to it can still be a problem

every girl responds differently to a different approach

some love cocky , self assured guys

some get turned off by it

some like sarcasm and some will mistake it for being rude to them or flirting they may take as you bashing them if u make fun of them too much

some chicks may think youre a creep if you talk slick and sexy to them, but some may lose interest if you dont show some physical interest

my opinion , approaching women is the same as anything else, the more you practice at it the better you get and the more of a feel you develop

you can be very good at this game, but there is no ceiling, you can always sharpen up your game

this is just proof

CLEEN · 06-27-2005, 08:58 PM

mane, just take a deep breath and start talking to them....just be confident with whatever you say to them - girl's can detect that shit. if your voice is cracking and you start sweating and shit, chances are you're not getting far. if you see a chick in the mall for instance - just say something like "i saw you and i just had to speak to you because you're very attractive" - then she'll probably say thank you and pause for you to keep talking or she'll say thank you and keep stepping...either way you can't lose - heres some words of wisdom - "you never know what you can get, if you never try to get it" & "2 things i aint seen befo - a UFO and ho that won't go"

.Inkwell. · 06-28-2005, 08:44 PM

if ur a good lookin asshole such as myself, they'll approach u.

but when approaching them, all i can say is just throw caution to the wind and go with ur gut. not like u'll ever see the chick again if she aint with it

Mind~$oul · 06-29-2005, 12:32 AM

That first phone call is something dreadful!

SixNineExe · 06-29-2005, 12:36 AM

i prefer running up to them and throwing a jab to their neck/stomach, makes for real interesting conversation when shes knocked out.

illustrate · 06-29-2005, 04:59 AM

man fuck all the other shit in here. be ya got damn self is the best advice i can give you. you gon fuck around and make it even worse tryna live up to what works for the next nigg-a. hoes know when a nigg-a tryn too hard and not bein real. and that shit is lame and you aint gon get no play. so fucka "player" image playboy go up to the female and say wsup introduce yaself or what not ask her bout herself for a lil minute u know whatever comes natural just dont stress it i can't really tell you what to say or what i say cause every female is different and what i say depends on what she says or is reactin like u feel me. u should be able to tell if shes feelin u by then. either way jus ask for her number sometime in the convo.

oh and dont ask her if she got a man. cause if lil mama got one let her tell you that if anythin thats her responsibility. if she dont say nuthin bout a bf and gives u her number who gives a fuck if shes got one??ya diggg cause if she givin u her number u obviously got a chance to hit it anyway..u bringin up to boyfriend could jus fuck it all up for u.

yayo · 06-29-2005, 08:14 AM

[quote=illustrate]man fuck all the other shit in here.

whatever comes natural just dont stress it i can't really tell you what to say or what i say cause every female is different and what i say depends on what she says or is reactin like u feel me. u should be able to tell if shes feelin u by then. either way jus ask for her number sometime in the convo.

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fuck the other shit in here?

then you proceed to give the same advice as me?

hahhhaha

next time read the other responces

deselina · 06-29-2005, 08:17 AM

all you need to do is make eye contact, if the girl looks your way you're good, if she's looking away, dun approach her. that's all there is to it. and then you can start off with making a compliment but dun make it sound corny. just say the truth. if a man starts coming at me with some sexually oriented shit i will laugh in his face. that's just desperate.

!ron HorSe · 06-29-2005, 08:34 AM

It's not something you just go out an do one day, it's something you pick up when your with your friends usually.

LikeWise3001 · 06-29-2005, 11:07 AM

im not tryin to change who I am...

Im just trying to get over not being able to approach a girl...

like i said, once I get the first conversation out of the way, im good... i can handle myself very well....

i gotta agree with iron horse...

im thinkin along the same lines...

since i have no expierence really in walkin up to a girl and lettin her know that im feelin her.... it'll probably be easier with a friend there... cause, thats just how dudes are... they give you that extra push that you need when you're like myself and you talk yourself out of approaching a female....

i just need some expierence.... thats my problem... being locked up in a relationship for 3 years.... I guess it made me this way...

if i know the girl beforehand... i can get what I want... the number, whatever..

strangers make me cautious. haha

6th_plague · 06-29-2005, 01:21 PM

man i didnt even read this shit...ya'll nuggaz be killing me how un manly ya'll are..you dont know how to approach a bitch? that shit is an instinct all men have...no offense man ...man enough is turning into ladies delight and shit

LikeWise3001 · 06-29-2005, 01:55 PM

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Originally Posted by 6th_plague

man i didnt even read this shit...ya'll nuggaz be killing me how un manly ya'll are..you dont know how to approach a bitch? that shit is an instinct all men have...no offense man ...man enough is turning into ladies delight and shit

you dont know me... im not offended but... still.

im unmanly because I been locked in a relationship since I was 17 and im bout to turn 21 now and my game is rusty....? please...

I said it a few times in the thread, once i get the number, im good... its more of a 'talking myself out of approaching a female' type of situation...

blah, anyone can pretend to be the man on the net... im keepin it real, this is the only place where i would even discuss it... cause it's all anonymous...

Lost Prophet · 06-29-2005, 04:30 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by 6th_plague

...man enough is turning into ladies delight and shit

calm down fella. Don't wanna have to hem you up in Miami.. hahaha

BO$$ DOLLA · 06-29-2005, 04:36 PM

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Originally Posted by SixNineExe

i prefer running up to them and throwing a jab to their neck/stomach, makes for real interesting conversation when shes knocked out.

haha, that a funi way of makin a konvosation but if that works fo you den go head G
if you good lookin like me its eazy to get bitchez

illustrate · 06-29-2005, 06:02 PM

[quote=wyte boi]

Quote:

Originally Posted by illustrate

man fuck all the other shit in here.

whatever comes natural just dont stress it i can't really tell you what to say or what i say cause every female is different and what i say depends on what she says or is reactin like u feel me. u should be able to tell if shes feelin u by then. either way jus ask for her number sometime in the convo.

[\QUOTE]

fuck the other shit in here?

then you proceed to give the same advice as me?

hahhhaha
next time read the other responces

how did we give the same advice?you said different hoes like different shit so it depends on how you act when you approach her and that it's a game u can sharpen on. i told homeboy to be himself and dont put up no kinda act to try and get some girl to feel you.u feel me dont talk slick or be cocky cause a girl likes thats if thats not u cause its jus gon come off lame.when i said it depends what i say to the female i mean its based on our suroundins, what we doin ,how old she is, if she got kids etc. but besides small talk i basically jus try to see if shes feelin me. i mean i dont got no pre payed game i wrote down or some shit i use when i get at girls LOL. whateva happens happens and ima still be me ima cocky/funny but serious and str8 to the point type nigg-a if a bitch doesnt like that she can sit on the curb for all i giva fuck i aint tryna act no certain way to bag no female.

not sayin what you said wasnt tru but we didnt give the same advice. it might of sounded similiar i guess

LikeWise3001 · 06-29-2005, 06:15 PM

i didnt ask how to act... I didnt ask for lines... and I didnt say I wanted to change who I am... and i didnt say I have trouble gettin girls...

all i said basically was...

whats the best way to get comfortable enough to approach complete strangers and let them/her know you wanna get to know her better...

be yourself and all that other bullshit is common sense...

you dudes think you are droppin knowledge... blah...

i guess i could have answered my own question...

I just need to start approaching more females with just the intention of gettin to be more comfortable when i do approach... basically, practice makes perfect...

illustrate · 06-29-2005, 07:05 PM

LOL^^

im not tryna drop knowledge im just speakin my opinion. what i said is not common sense you'd be suprised how many clueless ass nigg-as is runnin around this board askin how do i spit game and other cornball shit you shoulda been known by the time your 16.theres like 29383 threads bout it every month. so that's basically what i thought this was..

and playboy you do got problems gettin girls if your too scary to even approach them so please don't come in here now all of a sudden like you up on game when just a second ago you was askin a message board for tips ok. your 20 yrs old but you dont know how to approach a female?c'mon dawg that relationship shit doesnt matter you dont forget shit like that im two years deep and i still aint lost it.you just never had it playa im sorry.

but yeah i guess wyteboi got the best advice in here then. practices makes perfect and you sure as hell arent gon get any more comfortable if you keep pussy'n out everytime you see a female.

06-27-2005, 08:38 PM	#1 (permalink)
LikeWise3001 I crush alot Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Around the way Posts: 2,529	Damn, I don't have any "first approach" game let me just say first... I have zero trouble carrying a conversation with a female... my problem area is the first approach... since I was dating a girl for 3 years... (from age 17 till 20) I really dont have any 'player' expierence... as in... approaching random females that I'm attracted to... ...Like, that girl in the mall... or that girl at the beach... or that girl walking down the street... or that girl in line at the convienence store... i mean, I dont know how to approach them... since I havent done it in so long... i'm very hesitant...and I dont do it... I dont know what to say really... I guess i talk myself out of it... like... "man, im'a sound lame....saying Hi, my name is David, Im attracted to you, whats your name" I hate...hate....hate.... the beginning of getting to know a girl... what should i do? just approach alot of girls...? I dont know what im asking really... maybe im just venting... but anyway, once I get over the introduction and whatever....and im on the first phone call or first date.... I handle myself very well.... like i said, its only the intro that I have a problem with.... __________________ Cavaliers...

06-27-2005, 08:58 PM	#3 (permalink)
CLEEN wavy hair & gold teeth Join Date: May 2005 Location: Dwntwn LYNCHBURG Posts: 741	mane, just take a deep breath and start talking to them....just be confident with whatever you say to them - girl's can detect that shit. if your voice is cracking and you start sweating and shit, chances are you're not getting far. if you see a chick in the mall for instance - just say something like "i saw you and i just had to speak to you because you're very attractive" - then she'll probably say thank you and pause for you to keep talking or she'll say thank you and keep stepping...either way you can't lose - heres some words of wisdom - "you never know what you can get, if you never try to get it" & "2 things i aint seen befo - a UFO and ho that won't go" __________________ My mind catches flashbacks to the black past while my close niggaz laugh at The Southern slang, finger waves and Mojo chicken wangs I grew up on booty shake we did not know no better thang THE HEART OF VA - DOWNTOWN LYNCHBURG WhiteRock, Da Field, College Hill, Dearington, Birchwood, DiamondHill, Park Ave, 5th St, Rivermont....Da HillCity!!!!

06-28-2005, 08:44 PM	#4 (permalink)
.Inkwell. a lost cause since '03 Join Date: Jun 2001 Location: Boston, MA. Posts: 6,958	if ur a good lookin asshole such as myself, they'll approach u. but when approaching them, all i can say is just throw caution to the wind and go with ur gut. not like u'll ever see the chick again if she aint with it __________________ i'm so ruthless..

06-29-2005, 12:32 AM	#5 (permalink)
Mind~$oul I'm Pretty Join Date: Apr 2001 Location: North Memphis BITCH! Posts: 17,139	That first phone call is something dreadful! __________________ "Everybody wanna be a nicca, but don't nobody wanna be a nicca"-Paul Mooney "I tried to live right, but society aint made for niccas to live right"-Joe Budden

06-29-2005, 04:59 AM	#7 (permalink)
illustrate watch my shoes Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: MIAMI FLA Posts: 9,542	man fuck all the other shit in here. be ya got damn self is the best advice i can give you. you gon fuck around and make it even worse tryna live up to what works for the next nigg-a. hoes know when a nigg-a tryn too hard and not bein real. and that shit is lame and you aint gon get no play. so fucka "player" image playboy go up to the female and say wsup introduce yaself or what not ask her bout herself for a lil minute u know whatever comes natural just dont stress it i can't really tell you what to say or what i say cause every female is different and what i say depends on what she says or is reactin like u feel me. u should be able to tell if shes feelin u by then. either way jus ask for her number sometime in the convo. oh and dont ask her if she got a man. cause if lil mama got one let her tell you that if anythin thats her responsibility. if she dont say nuthin bout a bf and gives u her number who gives a fuck if shes got one??ya diggg cause if she givin u her number u obviously got a chance to hit it anyway..u bringin up to boyfriend could jus fuck it all up for u. __________________ nigga told me i cant sell dope forever....i told that nigga i dont wanna hear shit from a broke nigga..! - PLIES U DONT KNOW MY STRUGGLE, SO U CANT FEEL MY HUSTLE

06-29-2005, 12:36 AM	#6 (permalink)
SixNineExe Registered User Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 111	i prefer running up to them and throwing a jab to their neck/stomach, makes for real interesting conversation when shes knocked out.

06-29-2005, 08:17 AM	#9 (permalink)
deselina devine defined Join Date: May 2005 Location: AMSTERDAM Posts: 670	all you need to do is make eye contact, if the girl looks your way you're good, if she's looking away, dun approach her. that's all there is to it. and then you can start off with making a compliment but dun make it sound corny. just say the truth. if a man starts coming at me with some sexually oriented shit i will laugh in his face. that's just desperate. __________________ some points and rep would be nice - ♥ chiquita ♥ -

06-29-2005, 08:34 AM	#10 (permalink)
!ron HorSe Registered User Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: In my hood you get no points for your jumpshot. Posts: 17,743	It's not something you just go out an do one day, it's something you pick up when your with your friends usually. __________________ . . Im on my 8th summer still hot young's the 8th wonder All I do is get bread yea I take wonder I take one of ya chics straight from under ya arm pit The black Brad Pit I mack till 6 in the AM All day Im P-I-M-P I am simply attached to tha track like symphony

06-29-2005, 11:07 AM	#11 (permalink)
LikeWise3001 I crush alot Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Around the way Posts: 2,529	im not tryin to change who I am... Im just trying to get over not being able to approach a girl... like i said, once I get the first conversation out of the way, im good... i can handle myself very well.... i gotta agree with iron horse... im thinkin along the same lines... since i have no expierence really in walkin up to a girl and lettin her know that im feelin her.... it'll probably be easier with a friend there... cause, thats just how dudes are... they give you that extra push that you need when you're like myself and you talk yourself out of approaching a female.... i just need some expierence.... thats my problem... being locked up in a relationship for 3 years.... I guess it made me this way... if i know the girl beforehand... i can get what I want... the number, whatever.. strangers make me cautious. haha __________________ Cavaliers... Last edited by LikeWise3001; 06-29-2005 at 11:08 AM.

06-29-2005, 01:21 PM	#12 (permalink)
6th_plague More then meets the eye Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Georgia Posts: 26,463	man i didnt even read this shit...ya'll nuggaz be killing me how un manly ya'll are..you dont know how to approach a bitch? that shit is an instinct all men have...no offense man ...man enough is turning into ladies delight and shit __________________ Fortune 5 Hunned - Behind the Smoke and Mirrors May 2007 are you ready? New Single -Hi Haters

06-29-2005, 06:15 PM	#17 (permalink)
LikeWise3001 I crush alot Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Around the way Posts: 2,529	i didnt ask how to act... I didnt ask for lines... and I didnt say I wanted to change who I am... and i didnt say I have trouble gettin girls... all i said basically was... whats the best way to get comfortable enough to approach complete strangers and let them/her know you wanna get to know her better... be yourself and all that other bullshit is common sense... you dudes think you are droppin knowledge... blah... i guess i could have answered my own question... I just need to start approaching more females with just the intention of gettin to be more comfortable when i do approach... basically, practice makes perfect... __________________ Cavaliers...

06-29-2005, 07:05 PM	#18 (permalink)
illustrate watch my shoes Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: MIAMI FLA Posts: 9,542	LOL^^ im not tryna drop knowledge im just speakin my opinion. what i said is not common sense you'd be suprised how many clueless ass nigg-as is runnin around this board askin how do i spit game and other cornball shit you shoulda been known by the time your 16.theres like 29383 threads bout it every month. so that's basically what i thought this was.. and playboy you do got problems gettin girls if your too scary to even approach them so please don't come in here now all of a sudden like you up on game when just a second ago you was askin a message board for tips ok. your 20 yrs old but you dont know how to approach a female?c'mon dawg that relationship shit doesnt matter you dont forget shit like that im two years deep and i still aint lost it.you just never had it playa im sorry. but yeah i guess wyteboi got the best advice in here then. practices makes perfect and you sure as hell arent gon get any more comfortable if you keep pussy'n out everytime you see a female. __________________ nigga told me i cant sell dope forever....i told that nigga i dont wanna hear shit from a broke nigga..! - PLIES U DONT KNOW MY STRUGGLE, SO U CANT FEEL MY HUSTLE