I need advice. HELP!!!

Ixtlan · 07-19-2006, 12:14 PM

I'm in a loving and committed relationship with a woman I plan to marry in the next 1-2 years.

Recently, a close friend of her family was released from prison (he had been away for the last 7-8 years). I'm very well acquainted with the guy. We grew up together. We were tight in years past. This guy is widely considered family by my girlfriend.

About a week ago my lady's girl cousin (we'll call her Gina) let her in on a little secret. Despite the fact that she (Gina, my girlfriend's cousin) is related to this guy by marriage...she had an ongoing sexual relationship with the man for years.

Now that he's back home she's interested in rekindling the sexual flame. Problem is...Gina is now married.

Gina, my girlfriend's cousin, approached my lady a couple of days ago and advised her that this guy has been dying to see her. She goes on to talk about a rather heated makeout session she had with him recently. In a private conversation the guy expressed an interest in my woman. In fact, he put Gina up to asking my girl to participate in a threesome.

Mind you, I grew up with Gina as well.
We've had our moments, but ultimately we've known each other for 16 years.

I'm deeply saddened and angry that she'd approach my girl with some nonsense like that knowing that she's in a monogamous relationship. My girlfriend relayed this message to her cousin. Now she's upset.

She feels betrayed. Feels as though my girlfriend should never have tipped me off about their plans to include her in a sexual triangle.

What the @#$%?

Isn't the mere mention of this idea the very definition of deceit? How can you be mad that my girl tells me the truth about some sneaky plot you have in mind? You want her to sleep around on me behind my back, but her telling me is deceitful?

My girlfriend goes on to tell her cousin that I'm so pissed that she may hear from me. And that furthermore, I may have a word with her husband.

Gina claims that my girlfriend is putting a man above her family. That "blood is thicker than water". She even threatened me if I were to say something to her husband.

I'm not concerned at all about what she may to do me. I'm a grown man I can fend for myself.

I just want to know...

Would it be wrong for me to address her husband about the fact that she's a whore and is planning to sleep around on him?

Isn't she asking for it?
How should I handle this?

Your honest advice would be appreciated.

-XzErEoUs- · 07-19-2006, 12:28 PM

^^ nahh you shouldnt approach her husband.. it dont really involve you mayne.. i mean, yeh she tried to get at your girl but thats her family man

and even though it seems like she really is going down you have no proof.. and you dont wanna be the man responsible for breakin up a family.. ya feels me?

but wtf is up with the cousin wantin to have a threesome with her cousin?

and if you should take ne course of action itd be to let the dude who just got out if he comes near your girl ull slit his throat.. i dont give a fuck he jsut got out neone comes near my girl i dont give a fuck if its tyson ima fight for her

-XzErEoUs- · 07-19-2006, 12:29 PM

ima fight him**

Ixtlan · 07-19-2006, 12:32 PM

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Originally Posted by -XzErEoUs-

^^ nahh you shouldnt approach her husband.. it dont really involve you mayne.. i mean, yeh she tried to get at your girl but thats her family man

I understand that to a degree, but even aside from the fact that this is her cousin this is a girl I've known for 16 years. I've had my own dealings with her.

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and even though it seems like she really is going down you have no proof.. and you dont wanna be the man responsible for breakin up a family.. ya feels me?

My girlfriend is the smoking gun. And if I wanted to entangle the girl I could easily just question the girl by email and save those records. That'd be proof enough.

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but wtf is up with the cousin wantin to have a threesome with her cousin?

Exactly. She's a whore. She doesn't care.

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and if you should take ne course of action itd be to let the dude who just got out if he comes near your girl ull slit his throat.. i dont give a fuck he jsut got out neone comes near my girl i dont give a fuck if its tyson ima fight for her

If I say anything I'm going to address him as well.
I can't expect him to respect my relationship because we haven't really been exposed to one another for a decade or so, but still... He knows me and he knows who I'm with. That's some foul shit.

-XzErEoUs- · 07-19-2006, 03:28 PM

settin people up in emails and shit?? come on man.. it sounds like you want to fuck up their family

karma comes around.. that sneaky bitch can only be sneaky for so long till her time comes

let things take their course and protect your family, thats all u should worry bout

Ixtlan · 07-24-2006, 11:29 PM

I decided to keep my mouth shut on the issue.

Ironically I found out today her husband was making out with one of her mortal enemies last night. Guess you were right X.

Konscious · 07-25-2006, 09:40 AM

Word... X gave some good advice... I really can't add anything more.

This sounds like a potential Jerry Springer episode.

kid848 · 07-25-2006, 01:21 PM

lol... ^ that's what I was thinking...

I probably would've kept my mouth shut myself. No need to yaself in a situation that you can easily diffuse by just protecting yours.

iLL Rich · 07-25-2006, 02:33 PM

stop snitchin

Konscious · 07-25-2006, 02:39 PM

^Man, those c-unit cats are gangsta!!!

ImRichBHutch · 07-25-2006, 02:59 PM

tell the husband

tight-eyes · 07-25-2006, 03:44 PM

Ole girl (Gina) is triflin'. I'd stay away from her and whatever drama she has going on. Let her and her husband deal with their issues on their own. If you need to have words with Gina to let her know how foul she is, that's understandable... but she sounds like the type to go all 'extra' with it and try to flip the shit on you & have you caught up over some bullshit.

Unless her husband is a really close friend of yours, I would just stay out of it.

Blaine Fontaine · 07-26-2006, 12:22 AM

shes a smut (Gina)
im kinda thinkin that your wife coulda handled that without tellin you though
because its breedin more drama and the fact that Gine is her cousin i think she coulda squashed it on the low
but then again if it ever came back up later would you be mad she didnt tell you?
i dunno

but mos def the cousin is a scally wag

Ixtlan · 07-26-2006, 06:52 PM

I left it alone. Steering clear of that traffic accident was the best advice.

Skrybe · 07-26-2006, 07:37 PM

Move. And get the fuck away from them foolish ass people. I can't remember at any point in time EVER saying "Yo cuz ... you really oughta let me hit that cause we family." ????? Nah ... that's NOT how it works. There's something pretty sad about pulling the family card on an issue about wanting to sleep with someone ... who's IN the family! "Oh, how you gon' tell him. He ain't in the family!" Yeah, I know ... that's why we're sleeping together! Because I don't do FAMILY!! Goodness gracious ... This is gonna go in a top 10 of mine somewhere ....

07-19-2006, 12:14 PM	#1 (permalink)
Ixtlan emceeingain'tforyou... Join Date: Jul 2000 Location: Kansas City, MO Posts: 11,830	I need advice. HELP!!! I'm in a loving and committed relationship with a woman I plan to marry in the next 1-2 years. Recently, a close friend of her family was released from prison (he had been away for the last 7-8 years). I'm very well acquainted with the guy. We grew up together. We were tight in years past. This guy is widely considered family by my girlfriend. About a week ago my lady's girl cousin (we'll call her Gina) let her in on a little secret. Despite the fact that she (Gina, my girlfriend's cousin) is related to this guy by marriage...she had an ongoing sexual relationship with the man for years. Now that he's back home she's interested in rekindling the sexual flame. Problem is...Gina is now married. Gina, my girlfriend's cousin, approached my lady a couple of days ago and advised her that this guy has been dying to see her. She goes on to talk about a rather heated makeout session she had with him recently. In a private conversation the guy expressed an interest in my woman. In fact, he put Gina up to asking my girl to participate in a threesome. Mind you, I grew up with Gina as well. We've had our moments, but ultimately we've known each other for 16 years. I'm deeply saddened and angry that she'd approach my girl with some nonsense like that knowing that she's in a monogamous relationship. My girlfriend relayed this message to her cousin. Now she's upset. She feels betrayed. Feels as though my girlfriend should never have tipped me off about their plans to include her in a sexual triangle. What the @#$%? Isn't the mere mention of this idea the very definition of deceit? How can you be mad that my girl tells me the truth about some sneaky plot you have in mind? You want her to sleep around on me behind my back, but her telling me is deceitful? My girlfriend goes on to tell her cousin that I'm so pissed that she may hear from me. And that furthermore, I may have a word with her husband. Gina claims that my girlfriend is putting a man above her family. That "blood is thicker than water". She even threatened me if I were to say something to her husband. I'm not concerned at all about what she may to do me. I'm a grown man I can fend for myself. I just want to know... Would it be wrong for me to address her husband about the fact that she's a whore and is planning to sleep around on him? Isn't she asking for it? How should I handle this? Your honest advice would be appreciated. __________________ Namaste, Ix. myspace.com/reach Last edited by Ixtlan; 07-19-2006 at 12:30 PM.

07-19-2006, 12:28 PM	#2 (permalink)
-XzErEoUs- im super, mayne Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Jersey New Posts: 12,686	^^ nahh you shouldnt approach her husband.. it dont really involve you mayne.. i mean, yeh she tried to get at your girl but thats her family man and even though it seems like she really is going down you have no proof.. and you dont wanna be the man responsible for breakin up a family.. ya feels me? but wtf is up with the cousin wantin to have a threesome with her cousin? and if you should take ne course of action itd be to let the dude who just got out if he comes near your girl ull slit his throat.. i dont give a fuck he jsut got out neone comes near my girl i dont give a fuck if its tyson ima fight for her __________________ i ams what i says i ams

07-19-2006, 12:29 PM	#3 (permalink)
-XzErEoUs- im super, mayne Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Jersey New Posts: 12,686	ima fight him** __________________ i ams what i says i ams

07-19-2006, 03:28 PM	#5 (permalink)
-XzErEoUs- im super, mayne Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Jersey New Posts: 12,686	settin people up in emails and shit?? come on man.. it sounds like you want to fuck up their family karma comes around.. that sneaky bitch can only be sneaky for so long till her time comes let things take their course and protect your family, thats all u should worry bout __________________ i ams what i says i ams

07-24-2006, 11:29 PM	#6 (permalink)
Ixtlan emceeingain'tforyou... Join Date: Jul 2000 Location: Kansas City, MO Posts: 11,830	I decided to keep my mouth shut on the issue. Ironically I found out today her husband was making out with one of her mortal enemies last night. Guess you were right X. __________________ Namaste, Ix. myspace.com/reach

07-25-2006, 09:40 AM	#7 (permalink)
Konscious Resident Sage Join Date: Aug 1999 Location: Maplewood, NJ Posts: 9,447	Word... X gave some good advice... I really can't add anything more. This sounds like a potential Jerry Springer episode. __________________ "I'm already rich, because my wants are few."

07-25-2006, 01:21 PM	#8 (permalink)
kid848 Ya Boi Honesty Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Philly Posts: 1,110	lol... ^ that's what I was thinking... I probably would've kept my mouth shut myself. No need to yaself in a situation that you can easily diffuse by just protecting yours. __________________ www.NOoutsideLinksInTheSig.com/NextTimeYouWillBeBanned Sound Click Page is OK

07-25-2006, 02:33 PM	#9 (permalink)
iLL Rich ... Join Date: Nov 2001 Posts: 42,675	stop snitchin

07-25-2006, 02:39 PM	#10 (permalink)
Konscious Resident Sage Join Date: Aug 1999 Location: Maplewood, NJ Posts: 9,447	^Man, those c-unit cats are gangsta!!! __________________ "I'm already rich, because my wants are few."

07-25-2006, 02:59 PM	#11 (permalink)
ImRichBHutch Registered User Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 36	tell the husband

07-25-2006, 03:44 PM	#12 (permalink)
tight-eyes Such a F*cking Lady! Join Date: Nov 1999 Location: the burbs Posts: 20,385	Ole girl (Gina) is triflin'. I'd stay away from her and whatever drama she has going on. Let her and her husband deal with their issues on their own. If you need to have words with Gina to let her know how foul she is, that's understandable... but she sounds like the type to go all 'extra' with it and try to flip the shit on you & have you caught up over some bullshit. Unless her husband is a really close friend of yours, I would just stay out of it.

07-26-2006, 12:22 AM	#13 (permalink)
Blaine Fontaine property hustla Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: city of broke down dreams Posts: 3,568	shes a smut (Gina) im kinda thinkin that your wife coulda handled that without tellin you though because its breedin more drama and the fact that Gine is her cousin i think she coulda squashed it on the low but then again if it ever came back up later would you be mad she didnt tell you? i dunno but mos def the cousin is a scally wag __________________ Philly>your city

07-26-2006, 06:52 PM	#14 (permalink)
Ixtlan emceeingain'tforyou... Join Date: Jul 2000 Location: Kansas City, MO Posts: 11,830	I left it alone. Steering clear of that traffic accident was the best advice. __________________ Namaste, Ix. myspace.com/reach

07-26-2006, 07:37 PM	#15 (permalink)
Skrybe ConnectedthruaForeignExch Join Date: Feb 2000 Location: H-Town, VA baby Posts: 10,003	Move. And get the fuck away from them foolish ass people. I can't remember at any point in time EVER saying "Yo cuz ... you really oughta let me hit that cause we family." ????? Nah ... that's NOT how it works. There's something pretty sad about pulling the family card on an issue about wanting to sleep with someone ... who's IN the family! "Oh, how you gon' tell him. He ain't in the family!" Yeah, I know ... that's why we're sleeping together! Because I don't do FAMILY!! Goodness gracious ... This is gonna go in a top 10 of mine somewhere .... __________________ "Seems like whatever I do, is not enough for you/ I paid the cost and gave you my all, and you still want more/ I'm still standing right here, but it seems so unfair/ that I sacrificed and gave you my life and you still, want more ..../"

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