Men why do alot of us do some of the same things women do when it comes to holding on

[mr.rip]

Why can't some of us see when women are walking over us and lot of us just take it and stand for it. You don't have to stay there in that relationship. there are alot of women out there looking for good men. Maybe they stay because they don't want to start all over with someone else and just settle for what they have.

[Musica']

I think it's an insecurity thing. People feel like they can't do any better so they do what they have to do to keep that one person weather their worth it or not.
People get to dependant on people, also.....
Everyone knows love is blind to, even though it's obvious to someone outside looking in, love clouds the lovers thoughts and it's hard to see when your s/o isn't someone you should be wasting time on.

[mr.rip]

Originally Posted by Musica'

I think it's an insecurity thing. People feel like they can't do any better so they do what they have to do to keep that one person weather their worth it or not.
People get to dependant on people, also.....
Everyone knows love is blind to, even though it's obvious to someone outside looking in, love clouds the lovers thoughts and it's hard to see when your s/o isn't someone you should be wasting time on.

Do you think people can change for the better sometimes? there are times when when peeps leave each other they grow more and become the person they should of been when they was with their S/O

[Musica']

I think you can, time changes and heals more than we realize. It took alot for all of us to become what we are now, and I don't even think in most cases people know there changing for the better but that one s/o opened something subconciously to where deep down they know what needs to change and how to change it. In the long run they do...

[mr.rip]

Originally Posted by Musica'

I think you can, time changes and heals more than we realize. It took alot for all of us to become what we are now, and I don't even think in most cases people know there changing for the better but that one s/o opened something subconciously to where deep down they know what needs to change and how to change it. In the long run they do...

It took alot for all of us to become what we are now

you ain't never lied lol i came a looooooooong way lol

[skandelous_lala]

I have a friend who is definitely just scared to go out there and be on her own, she definitely just settles when she could do way better but she is scared. But at the same time, if her man would shape up there would be no problem...they could be happy and in love and fruitful and have the life that everybody dreams of.

For me, I feel like that is the thing that a lot of people don't realize..that they can have the life they dream of if only they just realize it and put the work they need to into attaining.

People are put into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. Sometimes we have lessons to learn, sometimes not it is a passing thing, sometimes we find people who are soulmates, male or female...they forever effect our lives...

If a person feels that another person is taking advantage of them, they need to move on. If you are unhappy and feel used, it is time to move.

If there is a bigger picture to work on, then work on it. Everybody makes mistakes. Not everybody is the perfect partner. Sometimes we can see that an work on it and still be with that person. Sometimes we can see it, work on it, and it is time not to be with that person.

As I grow older I find it childish to blame one's problems and short comings on another person, to say that they are holding you down, that you are falling victim to them. After all we are all adults who are perfectly capable of leaving the situation if we feel it is not healthy for us.

[mr.rip]

Originally Posted by skandelous_lala

I have a friend who is definitely just scared to go out there and be on her own, she definitely just settles when she could do way better but she is scared. But at the same time, if her man would shape up there would be no problem...they could be happy and in love and fruitful and have the life that everybody dreams of.

For me, I feel like that is the thing that a lot of people don't realize..that they can have the life they dream of if only they just realize it and put the work they need to into attaining.

People are put into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. Sometimes we have lessons to learn, sometimes not it is a passing thing, sometimes we find people who are soulmates, male or female...they forever effect our lives...

If a person feels that another person is taking advantage of them, they need to move on. If you are unhappy and feel used, it is time to move.

If there is a bigger picture to work on, then work on it. Everybody makes mistakes. Not everybody is the perfect partner. Sometimes we can see that an work on it and still be with that person. Sometimes we can see it, work on it, and it is time not to be with that person.

As I grow older I find it childish to blame one's problems and short comings on another person, to say that they are holding you down, that you are falling victim to them. After all we are all adults who are perfectly capable of leaving the situation if we feel it is not healthy for us.

As I grow older I find it childish to blame one's problems and short comings on another person, to say that they are holding you down, that you are falling victim to them.

I tell people that all the time at some point you have take the blame for your problems.

[tight-eyes]

Originally Posted by skandelous_lala

I have a friend who is definitely just scared to go out there and be on her own, she definitely just settles when she could do way better but she is scared. But at the same time, if her man would shape up there would be no problem...they could be happy and in love and fruitful and have the life that everybody dreams of.

For me, I feel like that is the thing that a lot of people don't realize..that they can have the life they dream of if only they just realize it and put the work they need to into attaining.

People are put into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. Sometimes we have lessons to learn, sometimes not it is a passing thing, sometimes we find people who are soulmates, male or female...they forever effect our lives...

If a person feels that another person is taking advantage of them, they need to move on. If you are unhappy and feel used, it is time to move.

If there is a bigger picture to work on, then work on it. Everybody makes mistakes. Not everybody is the perfect partner. Sometimes we can see that an work on it and still be with that person. Sometimes we can see it, work on it, and it is time not to be with that person.

As I grow older I find it childish to blame one's problems and short comings on another person, to say that they are holding you down, that you are falling victim to them. After all we are all adults who are perfectly capable of leaving the situation if we feel it is not healthy for us.

You stated my thoughts on this matter perfectly... nothing else for me to do or add.

x co-sign

[Musica']

Originally Posted by skandelous_lala

As I grow older I find it childish to blame one's problems and short comings on another person, to say that they are holding you down, that you are falling victim to them. After all we are all adults who are perfectly capable of leaving the situation if we feel it is not healthy for us.

you go girl.
That was realness at its peak.

[mr.rip]

Originally Posted by tight-eyes

You stated my thoughts on this matter perfectly... nothing else for me to do or add.

x co-sign

lol yes there is haha you always get something to say haha thats what i like bout you lol