usin the kids against your man

SuB zer0 · 02-27-2007, 07:23 PM

why do yall do this??

or think you can ne way??

my homie right now is a wreck

because his bm is keepin his son from him

they beefin for whatevea reason

has nothin to do with the kid

shes lyin to police tell them he's violent and she fears for her son

he's never laid a hand on her or the kid

they gotta court date but in the mean time he cant see his seed

and thats some bullshit

why when couples with kids split shits just automatic??

kids go with mom why??

my girl has tried that bullshit on me when we had a few heated arguements

talkin bout how she'll bounce with my daugther

im like go head

cause when i find you im splittn ur wig

hopefully that will never happen

because i refuse to not be livin in the same crib as my child

so that would seriously be war

but why do females feel they can do this shit?

Short²°°³ · 02-28-2007, 12:04 AM

Man, I just wrote out a whole post and it fucking dissapeared.... Im not typing that shit out again..Short version: Chicks who do this disgust me, if the dad hasnt shown that he would be a danger to the child there is NO REASON to keep their child from them..They have bitter feelings towards the fathers and can't get past them to realize that they are harming the relationship between father and son/daughter

Al Murder U · 02-28-2007, 01:43 AM

its a touchy subject...

my lil bro bro, met this girl bout 10 months ago, told him she was prego...didnt mind, and has been with her since...she seemed to me at least, like a cool girl, whos going through a few rough patches in her life...and he was gonna be there for this girl and her child, because thats kinda the way my family is...she was saying the father was in prison for life...and 3-4 weeks ago...the baby was born, a lil girl named Maia...now the girl is chocolate, and apparently the BD was too...but the lil girl came out light skinned, and lloks like my lil brother..now she says she knew it was his all along, but didnt want him to get mad...before admitting that my family was trying to push for a paternity test, just so we should know wheter or not we should help to take care of this baby...

she keeps refusing..then she says it isnt his, then she says it is...she keeps trying to mess with my lil brothers mind, and is being totally dishonest about every little thing...and what really pisses me off, is my lil bro ws tru to his word, and has done nothing but still be there for her, and the lil girl...weve been helping to take care of it...but she doesnt want to take a paternity test, because she doesnt want us to take the kid from her, which no1 really intended to do anyway...we just wanna know if shes a part of the famuily.

but shes really using it for leverage, and to play mind games, and the shit is just fucked up...she has my brother fucked up...and its pissing me off, because i feel like the bitch is just trying to use him, and the family...and i can flat out admit i dont like that bitch no more. also, i guess now shes claiming it was a fellow blood member's who was shot last year...and passed...so i dunno...

i guess im missing my point, im more so just venting...but i do think its fucked up how women can use their children as pawns and to manipulate people...

i honestly cant think of a situation where a man does these sorta things...

Al Murder U · 02-28-2007, 01:48 AM

in addition to this...i cant stand girls who always go through the "fake" pregnancy thing...trying to buy or win over your love...because ive had this happen...

another situation...and the reason i think my lil bro was so apt to be part of this girls life, is bc my older bro has a G/f with a daughter who just turned 3, and he pretty much raised that lil girl...well now, they have twins due in may, but she has had this lil girl calling my big bro, papa or daddy...then she gets mad and is quick to remind him that she isnt his...and that shit infuriates me as well...why u make her call him that then? shes innocent in all of this, and she dont deserve to be used as a pawn either...

bitches is shady tho...

UnbrokeN · 02-28-2007, 07:22 AM

solution: public stoning the women who do this

Nanijah · 02-28-2007, 08:52 AM

Ugh. Don't get me started on this. This pisses me off beyond belief lol. Although I've never had to be in a situation like this myself. My take is, the father is just as much of a parent than the mother. And I'd have NO problems with my husband have equal rights to our children. He has all rights to see them just as much as I do. The only thing I'd have a problem with is if he tried to take them fully from me lol. But I know he wouldn't (besides they are Momma's boys. They need mommy hehe). But we'd totally take responsability of them. Even if you split, you are still parents, still a team. Still need to raise the children as a team. You'll never break free from that. It's something I wish ALL mothers would realize.

Sorry your friend has to go through that. I think it's bs and I really think hte mother's should be pinned as the bad parent for saying false things and trying to take the child from the father totally. They'll only regret it later in life when their child askes why they weren't able to see their Daddy.

sigh.

Ignorant · 02-28-2007, 09:57 AM

Dudes need to quit impregnating little girls... and if a woman tried to leave with my kid, I'm having her arrested for kidnapping. If she tried to block me from seeing him, I'm having a court ordered injunction declared until custody is settled.

SuB zer0 · 02-28-2007, 10:33 AM

and i dont undersatnd why moms automaticaly get full custody

if me and my girl split

i want my daugther livin with me

split custody is not a good idea

and its like even if the kid stays with the mom

and then at 14-15 they wanna go live with there dad

they gotta ask permission

wtf?? why u need permission to live with ur dad

the whole system is bullshit man

as far as dudes gettina lil girls knocked

yeah that happens

but my homie been with his girl for 3 yrs

and shes 22 so she aint no lil girl

Ignorant · 02-28-2007, 03:10 PM

^Mentally... I know women in their 30s that act like little girls... I wasn't talking about age at all.

And women don't automatically get full custody... more and more men are getting custody of their kids these days... AND child support... the tide is changing.

UnbrokeN · 03-01-2007, 06:33 AM

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Originally Posted by Ignorant

And women don't automatically get full custody... more and more men are getting custody of their kids these days... AND child support... the tide is changing.

thanks to the mens movement..

Nanijah · 03-01-2007, 10:01 AM

I don't think it has anything to do with times changing. The child legally should be with the better fit parent. Doesn't matter if it's Mom or Dad. Or, live with both on a weekly basis if at all possible.

If my husband and I were to ever split. I know my kids would "live" with me. But I only know this because he has a full time job and wouldn't be able to have them "full time". But, he'd be more than happy to see OUR kids any time he wanted. I'm not about blocking the Father out. I couldn't even begin to imagine doing that to my boys or my husband.

I think the fact that I was a product of "you aren't allowed to see her" parenting. I've come to see that you can't just take a child from their other parent. My mom totally cut my birth dad off. Which gave him no choice but to leave. And then the nerve to tell me growing up he didn't want me @@. That shit is just WRONG!!! IMO

I wish more men would stand up for their rights as a parent, instead of giving up so fast.

Sex Cells · 03-06-2007, 11:09 AM

I have a lil boy
With a lasp of judgement and character I fell for the dude
He turned out to be an ignorant clown BUT
as I said "I" fell for him and had a baby for him
I think it's wrong to keep a child away from either parent just because ya'll can't get your shit right.
Ole' girl needs to grow the **** up "real type" because she's a mommy now.
Theres no room for that childish nonsense yo'.
If theres a REAL reason that the shorty can't see the other parent then so be it but if the custodial parent is just being vendictive then thats wrong.
My son see's his dad on a daily. Even tho' we can't be in the same room for over 5 minutes I don't punish my son from his father.
The both of them need that daddy son bonding time.
Who the **** am I to stand in the way?
I say ya' homie needs to fight for his baby cause his BM sounds like an ignorant selfish bird.

pinky · 03-06-2007, 12:24 PM

dont get it fucked up...men use the kids as a weapon too!

The Activist · 03-12-2007, 11:34 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by pinky

dont get it fucked up...men use the kids as a weapon too!

oh really? how so? i would love to hear this.

Ignorant · 03-12-2007, 11:40 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by pinky

dont get it fucked up...men use the kids as a weapon too!

Nevertheless, it doesn't excuse women doing it...

SuB zer0 · 03-12-2007, 11:25 PM

id never use my daugther as a weapon

thats bullshit

ima man how ima teach her how to be a woman?

she needs her mom

ad if me and her are goin through some shit oh well

im not gonna keep her away from her mom outta spite

because in the long run its hurtin my daugther more

these ignorent bitches need to take heed

UnbrokeN · 03-13-2007, 07:54 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Nanijah

I don't think it has anything to do with times changing. The child legally should be with the better fit parent. Doesn't matter if it's Mom or Dad. Or, live with both on a weekly basis if at all possible.

If my husband and I were to ever split. I know my kids would "live" with me. But I only know this because he has a full time job and wouldn't be able to have them "full time". But, he'd be more than happy to see OUR kids any time he wanted. I'm not about blocking the Father out. I couldn't even begin to imagine doing that to my boys or my husband.

I think the fact that I was a product of "you aren't allowed to see her" parenting. I've come to see that you can't just take a child from their other parent. My mom totally cut my birth dad off. Which gave him no choice but to leave. And then the nerve to tell me growing up he didn't want me @@. That shit is just WRONG!!! IMO

I wish more men would stand up for their rights as a parent, instead of giving up so fast.

100%

coudlnt agree more ..

02-27-2007, 07:23 PM	#1 (permalink)
SuB zer0 A.D.R.I.A.N.N.A Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: L.A. Jungles Posts: 15,409	usin the kids against your man why do yall do this?? or think you can ne way?? my homie right now is a wreck because his bm is keepin his son from him they beefin for whatevea reason has nothin to do with the kid shes lyin to police tell them he's violent and she fears for her son he's never laid a hand on her or the kid they gotta court date but in the mean time he cant see his seed and thats some bullshit why when couples with kids split shits just automatic?? kids go with mom why?? my girl has tried that bullshit on me when we had a few heated arguements talkin bout how she'll bounce with my daugther im like go head cause when i find you im splittn ur wig hopefully that will never happen because i refuse to not be livin in the same crib as my child so that would seriously be war but why do females feel they can do this shit? __________________ WESTCOAST the irony of sellin drugs is sorta like you usin it...guess its two sides to what substance abuse is COWBOYS RUN THE NFC

02-28-2007, 12:04 AM	#2 (permalink)
Short²°°³ How can she slap?!?!?! Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: The BEST place on Earth, BEAUTIFUL British Columbia Posts: 21,144	Man, I just wrote out a whole post and it fucking dissapeared.... Im not typing that shit out again..Short version: Chicks who do this disgust me, if the dad hasnt shown that he would be a danger to the child there is NO REASON to keep their child from them..They have bitter feelings towards the fathers and can't get past them to realize that they are harming the relationship between father and son/daughter __________________ Rapmusic.com IS BACK ON MYSPACE!!! <3 ITWDY <3 I'm Puerto Rican, hi

02-28-2007, 01:43 AM	#3 (permalink)
Al Murder U Lyrically... Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Killerado- The Real Hip Hop 5280 Posts: 7,231	its a touchy subject... my lil bro bro, met this girl bout 10 months ago, told him she was prego...didnt mind, and has been with her since...she seemed to me at least, like a cool girl, whos going through a few rough patches in her life...and he was gonna be there for this girl and her child, because thats kinda the way my family is...she was saying the father was in prison for life...and 3-4 weeks ago...the baby was born, a lil girl named Maia...now the girl is chocolate, and apparently the BD was too...but the lil girl came out light skinned, and lloks like my lil brother..now she says she knew it was his all along, but didnt want him to get mad...before admitting that my family was trying to push for a paternity test, just so we should know wheter or not we should help to take care of this baby... she keeps refusing..then she says it isnt his, then she says it is...she keeps trying to mess with my lil brothers mind, and is being totally dishonest about every little thing...and what really pisses me off, is my lil bro ws tru to his word, and has done nothing but still be there for her, and the lil girl...weve been helping to take care of it...but she doesnt want to take a paternity test, because she doesnt want us to take the kid from her, which no1 really intended to do anyway...we just wanna know if shes a part of the famuily. but shes really using it for leverage, and to play mind games, and the shit is just fucked up...she has my brother fucked up...and its pissing me off, because i feel like the bitch is just trying to use him, and the family...and i can flat out admit i dont like that bitch no more. also, i guess now shes claiming it was a fellow blood member's who was shot last year...and passed...so i dunno... i guess im missing my point, im more so just venting...but i do think its fucked up how women can use their children as pawns and to manipulate people... i honestly cant think of a situation where a man does these sorta things... __________________ ..l.. (-_-) ..l..

02-28-2007, 01:48 AM	#4 (permalink)
Al Murder U Lyrically... Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Killerado- The Real Hip Hop 5280 Posts: 7,231	in addition to this...i cant stand girls who always go through the "fake" pregnancy thing...trying to buy or win over your love...because ive had this happen... another situation...and the reason i think my lil bro was so apt to be part of this girls life, is bc my older bro has a G/f with a daughter who just turned 3, and he pretty much raised that lil girl...well now, they have twins due in may, but she has had this lil girl calling my big bro, papa or daddy...then she gets mad and is quick to remind him that she isnt his...and that shit infuriates me as well...why u make her call him that then? shes innocent in all of this, and she dont deserve to be used as a pawn either... bitches is shady tho... __________________ ..l.. (-_-) ..l..

02-28-2007, 07:22 AM	#5 (permalink)
UnbrokeN Registered User Join Date: Jun 2001 Location: Badstreet, USA Posts: 17,064	solution: public stoning the women who do this __________________ lol.. the day Hogan dies, he'll just say "No, I won't lay down for you,brother"!!! he will become the only man in history to actually no sell death.

02-28-2007, 08:52 AM	#6 (permalink)
Nanijah ♥♥♥ Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Canada Posts: 23,277	Ugh. Don't get me started on this. This pisses me off beyond belief lol. Although I've never had to be in a situation like this myself. My take is, the father is just as much of a parent than the mother. And I'd have NO problems with my husband have equal rights to our children. He has all rights to see them just as much as I do. The only thing I'd have a problem with is if he tried to take them fully from me lol. But I know he wouldn't (besides they are Momma's boys. They need mommy hehe). But we'd totally take responsability of them. Even if you split, you are still parents, still a team. Still need to raise the children as a team. You'll never break free from that. It's something I wish ALL mothers would realize. Sorry your friend has to go through that. I think it's bs and I really think hte mother's should be pinned as the bad parent for saying false things and trying to take the child from the father totally. They'll only regret it later in life when their child askes why they weren't able to see their Daddy. sigh. __________________ ツ smile

02-28-2007, 09:57 AM	#7 (permalink)
Ignorant Village Idiot Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: edge of sanity Posts: 9,705	Dudes need to quit impregnating little girls... and if a woman tried to leave with my kid, I'm having her arrested for kidnapping. If she tried to block me from seeing him, I'm having a court ordered injunction declared until custody is settled. __________________ "It would be better not to know so many things, than to know so many things that are not so." - Felix Okoye "The learning and knowledge that we have is at the most, but little compared with that of which we are ignorant." - Plato "How can we remember our ignorance, which our growth requires, when we're using our knowledge all the time?" - Henry David Thoreau

02-28-2007, 10:33 AM	#8 (permalink)
SuB zer0 A.D.R.I.A.N.N.A Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: L.A. Jungles Posts: 15,409	and i dont undersatnd why moms automaticaly get full custody if me and my girl split i want my daugther livin with me split custody is not a good idea and its like even if the kid stays with the mom and then at 14-15 they wanna go live with there dad they gotta ask permission wtf?? why u need permission to live with ur dad the whole system is bullshit man as far as dudes gettina lil girls knocked yeah that happens but my homie been with his girl for 3 yrs and shes 22 so she aint no lil girl __________________ WESTCOAST the irony of sellin drugs is sorta like you usin it...guess its two sides to what substance abuse is COWBOYS RUN THE NFC

02-28-2007, 03:10 PM	#9 (permalink)
Ignorant Village Idiot Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: edge of sanity Posts: 9,705	^Mentally... I know women in their 30s that act like little girls... I wasn't talking about age at all. And women don't automatically get full custody... more and more men are getting custody of their kids these days... AND child support... the tide is changing. __________________ "It would be better not to know so many things, than to know so many things that are not so." - Felix Okoye "The learning and knowledge that we have is at the most, but little compared with that of which we are ignorant." - Plato "How can we remember our ignorance, which our growth requires, when we're using our knowledge all the time?" - Henry David Thoreau

03-01-2007, 10:01 AM	#11 (permalink)
Nanijah ♥♥♥ Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Canada Posts: 23,277	I don't think it has anything to do with times changing. The child legally should be with the better fit parent. Doesn't matter if it's Mom or Dad. Or, live with both on a weekly basis if at all possible. If my husband and I were to ever split. I know my kids would "live" with me. But I only know this because he has a full time job and wouldn't be able to have them "full time". But, he'd be more than happy to see OUR kids any time he wanted. I'm not about blocking the Father out. I couldn't even begin to imagine doing that to my boys or my husband. I think the fact that I was a product of "you aren't allowed to see her" parenting. I've come to see that you can't just take a child from their other parent. My mom totally cut my birth dad off. Which gave him no choice but to leave. And then the nerve to tell me growing up he didn't want me @@. That shit is just WRONG!!! IMO I wish more men would stand up for their rights as a parent, instead of giving up so fast. __________________ ツ smile

03-06-2007, 11:09 AM	#12 (permalink)
Sex Cells Obsessive Fixation "WORD" Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Land of the Hurricanes. Posts: 111	I have a lil boy With a lasp of judgement and character I fell for the dude He turned out to be an ignorant clown BUT as I said "I" fell for him and had a baby for him I think it's wrong to keep a child away from either parent just because ya'll can't get your shit right. Ole' girl needs to grow the ** up "real type" because she's a mommy now. Theres no room for that childish nonsense yo'. If theres a REAL reason that the shorty can't see the other parent then so be it but if the custodial parent is just being vendictive then thats wrong. My son see's his dad on a daily. Even tho' we can't be in the same room for over 5 minutes I don't punish my son from his father. The both of them need that daddy son bonding time. Who the ** am I to stand in the way? I say ya' homie needs to fight for his baby cause his BM sounds like an ignorant selfish bird. __________________ Contemplating Consperacies Causes Catastrophies Last edited by Sex Cells; 03-06-2007 at 12:38 PM.

03-06-2007, 12:24 PM	#13 (permalink)
pinky yeah yeah yeah Join Date: Apr 2001 Location: I love New Jersey Posts: 1,680	dont get it fucked up...men use the kids as a weapon too!

03-12-2007, 11:25 PM	#16 (permalink)
SuB zer0 A.D.R.I.A.N.N.A Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: L.A. Jungles Posts: 15,409	id never use my daugther as a weapon thats bullshit ima man how ima teach her how to be a woman? she needs her mom ad if me and her are goin through some shit oh well im not gonna keep her away from her mom outta spite because in the long run its hurtin my daugther more these ignorent bitches need to take heed __________________ WESTCOAST the irony of sellin drugs is sorta like you usin it...guess its two sides to what substance abuse is COWBOYS RUN THE NFC