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Originally Posted by Maurkadi
alot of yall gonna stay single for the rest of yall life lol... it kinda seems like yall scared to say what yall want... if a cashier cheats you out of $20 you gonna wait for the cashier to mention that they owe you change and then leave the store?
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There is a difference in speaking up to demand something that is owed to you ($20) and asking for someone's hand in marriage. For some women it boils down to tradition, they just wouldn't ask because... well, they don't really know why not other than its not "normal" for women to do it or that women aren't "supposed to"... societal norms dictate that men do the asking... women are supposed to be "chosen".
You also have women who wouldn't do it because they don't want to ask or put pressure on a man before he's ready... they don't want to come off as to pushy or agressive... to them,
him asking is the best indicator that he's ready.
Then there are other women who simply don't want to deal with the rejection if he happens to say "no".
I'm sure there are other reasons women opt not to ask, those are just the few that came to mind.
One thing I would do for sure is start a discussion on marriage to find out his views and let him know that I was considering him as a prospect... if marriage was my goal and he let me know that he didn't consider me as a prospect I would move on... but I don't know that I'd ask a man to marry me... I just couldn't say its something I would never do... maybe I just haven't found anyone I wanted to ask, yet

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